Interview #1

Had a short interview with a student from my school who used to be shy before but realized that there is no reason to hold back. 

If there is anyone who would like to share their experiences about being shy but today are not, feel free to contact me so I can share your stories with other people and give them some inspiration.

Rejection

We all fear rejection, experiencing something like that can change your mindset totally, you can go from being the most confident person to the shyest person in a second if you get rejected, it does not matter if it is by a girl or boy, or maybe a job you believed that you were perfect for. People will tell you to just stand up and try again, that rejection is something we go through on the daily, but in fact rejection is my number one fear. I have avoided talking to girls just because I was afraid to get rejected, I have been afraid of saying ideas I have had in my head because of the fear of people rejecting them. Today I still do fear expressing all my ideas, and the girl part I have gotten over. I really do understand people who are afraid of approaching the opposite sex, or a person that attracts them and are interested in.

As the picture says, we all handle rejection differently, and the same goes for how we can get over it, some would say; just practice at getting rejected and that will lead you to not even getting touched by it. However, in my case I did not and still do not even dare to practice at getting over the fear of rejection, only thing that I keep telling myself is that having the fear of rejection will hold me back and I will opportunities of a life time, or someone that could be very special to me.

The lesson I can give you of getting over rejection is to come clean about it, tell one your closest friend that you have a fear of getting rejected by certain someone or situation. When you can talk about it, it means you have realized the problem and that you really want to change. Remember, it is better to get rejected then regretting something years later and be mad at yourself, you are doing yourself a favor if you get over rejection.

Comfort Zone

In my last post I asked you all to wear something that you guys were not comfortable with, I bet maybe one of you did it and you put on something that did not catch peoples attention, when I meant that you need to wear something really ugly then I really meant go all out, goooooo CRAZY with it. Here is an example:

Do you understand what I mean with wearing something comfortable and crazy?

Like any other skill, social skill is and can be cultivated through practice, it all depends on how much you believe in your skill. Lets take basketball players as an example; if a player can make a hundred free throws in a row, he or she KNOWS that they are good at it. However, if they never practice they will never reach that point, same goes for social skills. If you are not out there and and practicing everyday you will never step out of your comfort zone.

I will tell you a story about a young man from Sweden who never spoke in front of more than three people his entire life until he started taking public speaking classes and forcing himself to speak to big groups. Today he speaks for hundreds of people. Would you want to be able to do the same? I would recommend taking public speaking while you are in college, and if you already graduated, take it for "fun". It is said that public speaking is the number #1 fear, before death. Believe ME, you will not die by speaking in front of a crowd, you might mess up, fine. BUT! Who was ever perfect in the beginning? Even today no one is perfect at speaking in front of big crowds, however, there are people who work hard to get better, and that is the most important thing; TRYING!

My task for you is; Pretend that you are having an interview in your head, but you say everything out loud, you are the interviewer and the getting interviewed. All in all, you are holding a conversation with yourself. Start with doing it just by your own, however, I want you to do it in public as well. If that is too much to ask, than listen to music in your headphones and SING, SING your heart out in public in front of people. 

Hitch