Comfortable

I believe there is no person in the world that is not shy, I believe that there is different kinds of "shyness", if it is speaking in public or talking to the opposite gender. I believe there is always something a person will be shy about and there is a good reason for it; insecurities. The meaning with insecurities is being uncomfortable with yourself. (Body parts, the way you speak, the way you walk or the way you you bite your nails. You get the point.)

The first step to having more of a fruitful life is to start being content with yourself, be happy about what you have and use it as your strength. We all are different, which means that we all have something to bring to the table every day. It is not the easiest to look at yourself and be happy about everything you have, and if there is something that HAS to be changed, you work hard for it if it will make you happy and actually lead to you being more comfortable with yourself. Reason why I wrote HAS is because today we believe that we have to look and act like others, else we will not be accepted as a human being quiet frankly.

If you can convince yourself that you do not need to change anything with you and be perfectly content with yourself you should have no problem stepping out of your comfort zone. As long as you do not let yourself think about how others will perceive you, there is no reason for you not to be yourself all of the time.

Tomorrow, I want you to dress up in the clothes you are most comfortable in and walk around downtown with it. It could be bed clothes, the ugliest hoodie or the brightest shoes. I started wearing my pajama-pants to school just because that was the most comfortable clothing I had and I really did not bother dressing up for class. I would never have done that three years ago, now I do it on a daily just because it is "me".

"Most shy people wish they were more confident, because shyness is ultimately a symptom of you being uncomfortable with who you are. You judge yourself based on other people's standards and spend too much time in your own head, thinking of how best to act and react in any given situation. This is nothing more than a bad habit, and it's the sort of thing you can break with regular practice." - Adam Dachis (http://lifehacker.com/)

Introduction - Marathon.

The year was 2009, four years ago to the day that I arrived to the country where anyone could "make" it (The United States, California, San Francisco). Six months before the arrival I made a choice that something had to change drastically in my life; I had to explore a new country, a new city, a new culture, a brand new society. This was my chance to "re-brand" myself, the chance to become the person I always wanted to be, the person I believed I could be. Despite all the beliefs and wants, I could never get to that point where I could leave my shy and guarded shell while I still lived back home.(Sweden) It took a whole new country, a language that was not my mother tongue and a new society (College) to realize that no one knew me, no one knows my past, no one knows my mistakes, no one knows "that" shy boy.

Enough about me for now, keep on checking out this blog each Friday and Saturday and YOU will find out more, however, this blog is about helping YOU to discover a new world, a world where you will never think "What if I just talked to that person my life would have changed", "What if I just took that job offer in that other country my life would have been different" and so forth...

It is hard to just change over night, especially if your plan on trying to be more of an easily going person backfires, there is a very big chance that you will never try to come out of your shell again, believe me, I know the feeling. It is as anything you do in life, everything is not going to work out in the first try, you have to be patient and very stubborn to reach your goals in life, therefore, this should be a goal and it should be treated as if you were running a never ending marathon. There will never be a finish line when it comes to being an open and easy going person, no one has ever said; "I am going to stop working on being a better communicator." You can always become better and that is why I call this an never ending marathon.


"When you want to succeed as bad as you want to breathe, then you will be successful." - Eric Thomas